116) Why Not Ask Why Not?

116) Why Not Ask Why Not?

Interesting Question, right?

Different tonality with different emphasis will give you different questions.

Many times when you face problems, you will ask questions on what is the problem. Why this problem exists?

Normally, you ask the WHY question to find out the reason to cause problem.

When you ask to know the problem, which question you ask?
a) Why is it Wrong?
b) Why is it NOT Correct?

When you use the Why NOT question, you are maintaining your objective to get the Correct answer.
a) Why is it Wrong? - you are looking for the NEGATIVE answer.
b) Why is it NOT Correct? - you are looking for the POSITIVE answer.

Let me post a scenario as an example.

You had gone to a gathering dinner. A friend wanted to go back early. You wanted him to stay longer. You want to know what is the reason that makes him leave the gathering early and not stay longer.

What question did you normally ask? Which is similar to your question?
Choose A or B.
A) Why do you want to go back early?
B) Why can't you stay longer? 

When you ask question A, you are asking him for the reason he wants to go back.
The emphasis is on his decision. You are looking for the answer to the cause of the problem.

When you ask question B, you are asking him for the reason why he could NOT stay longer.
The emphasis is on you want him to stay. You are looking for the solution to the end result.

Your main objective is actually wanted him to stay longer.  
You want to know WHY he can NOT stay.
Then, you CAN look for solutions for him to stay longer.

Stephen Covey's Habit 2: Begin With End In Mind.
Your Question B is asking for answers to the end result. That is you wanted him to stay longer.




When you ask, "Why NOT?", you are looking for solutions. 
When you ask, 'Why?", you are looking for the problems.

 Asking the Right questions will guide you to get the solutions faster.